- Hardcover: 272 pages
- Publisher: NavPress Publishing; Rev Upd edition (April 19, 2006)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1576839540
- ISBN-13: 978-1576839546
Genre: Parenting
Synopsis: Psychiatrist Cline and educator Fay's "Love and Logic" parenting method advocates raising responsible children through practice. "Helicopter" parents hover around their children while "drill sergeant" parents give orders to theirs, they claim. Neither of these styles permits children to learn how to make choices and learn from the consequences. The result is that as early as adolescence these children too often make bad decisions. In the context of a healthy, loving relationship, "Love and Logic" parents teach their children responsibility and the logic of life by solving their own problems, providing skills for coping in the real world. After laying out the principles of "Love and Logic," the authors provide "parenting pearls," which are strategies for applying the method to actual situations such as back-seat battles in the car, homework, and keeping bedrooms clean. The narration, performed by Tim Kenney and Bert Gurule, is clear and energetic. This is an upbeat and sensible approach to child rearing that will be popular in public libraries.
Review: Well, I am a mom. I try hard to raise my children correctly but sometimes they just do not obey the way that I think they should. I was trying to figure out what changes to make in my parenting technique when a friend of mine recommended the Love & Logic book. So... I found it at my local library. ;) The first part of the book is the informational and consists of general concepts for parenting. This part makes a great foundation. The second part of the book is called referred to as the "Pearls". It has specific scenarios that is very common when parenting children. The second section of the book is actually my favorite part. I loved being able to read specific ways to handle common parenting questions.
Each chapter starts with a Proverb from the Bible. Christian terms are referenced sporadically throughout the book as well. Most of it are things like a child's "forbidden fruit" or something like that. They aren't teaching Christian views or biblical things but using them as metaphors. Some atheists have a hard time with this part and others don't care so I thought I'd include it here.
Have I used any of the things I've learned from the book yet? Oh yeah!! I used the same method to get my daughter to clean her room --- so much easier! We have talked more about making something right when a mistake has been made. My daughter ruined a toy of my son's and she has been doing chores to pay for it. Luckily, it was only $5 so it won't take much to pay for it but she seemed to really be sorry for it. In the past, I would have just made her apologize and then go to time out for a few minutes but this just seemed so much more effective. I loved the advice I learned from the book. Many of the things I was already doing, but it was nice getting more specific tips on how to handle specific situations. :)
Author: Foster Cline, M.D., is an internationally recognized physician and adult and child psychiatrist who has successfully parented four children. He is a consultant to mental health organizations, school systems, and business and parent groups across North America. He specializes in working with difficult children and is founder of Evergreen Consultants in Evergreen, Colorado. To learn more about this method and the authors then go here http://www.loveandlogic.com/
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Parenting With Love And Logic (Updated and Expanded Edition) (The Navigators Reference Library)
2 comments:
It sounds a lot like the book my therapist recommended, can't remember the name of it now (and of course, cannot find it on Amazon... what are the odds?!) It was from the 1950's, so some of the examples were a bit archaic. (Gender roles were an issue!) But it was all about teaching them responsibility by making them be responsible. Some of it works, but some of it was before the time of some parenting laws. (For example, if your child has problems getting ready in the mornings, you let them get themselves ready, if they are not ready in time then they can walk themselves to school. Can't necessarily do that one! But if they are late, then that is their problem, or if you have to be out the door by a certain time, take them as they are and if they have to put their shoes on in the car, or forget their homework, then that is their problem.) Sometimes it is hard to sit back and let our children fail ( at least for me!) But in the end, this is giving them world experiences that they can build on. Holding their hands through everything will not make them independent. Thanks for another book to read!!
I don't know if it's country wide but there is a 7 week "Love and Logic" course they teach here. I haven't taken it yet, but our RS activity this week was an hour presentation by the teacher of the course. I'm pretty excited to get the book now and take the class
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